If we listen, our children will teach us more about our selves than any self-help book, course or seminar.
We just have to drop our guard and open our hearts.
Our little ones are human mirrors with magical powers.
Lots of what we may see may upset us. If we run and pretend we don’t see it, it will get buried in what’s called our shadow and continue to play havoc in our life which directly effects our children.
When my daughter was very young, she said: “Do you really like me?” That broke my heart because of course, I liked her. After I reassured her, gave her a hug, and she went on her way, I went to what was going on in my head right before she said that.
What I was doing was having an internal battle. One part of me was wanting to project onto her how she should be (control), and another part of me was resisting it because I know projecting is toxic to children.
My higher-self wanted her to find her own way while I created space for it. As I talked with her she was picking up on all kinds of mixed messages and it caused her to ask the question.
I don’t know of any seminar or book that could have given me those insights. And I have spent a small fortune on them.
Ever see a child say to their mom or dad, “Why are you mad?” to which they respond, “I’m not mad!”. They are mad. They are hiding it and children can see it as clear as day. If this ever happens to you, just say “I don’t know but I will find out soon”. This will buy some time to figure out what’s going on.
Your child is like a wormhole into some of your darkest places. Let them lead you there so you can heal and grow. As a result, you will be able to show up for them even stronger and better than ever.
Hiding anything from them just creates a barrier between the two of you and it teaches them to do the same with others.
Children are our greatest teachers. We just need to open to them and be painfully honest with ourselves.