Parents Still Hitting Children?

Besides being proven by extensive studies that spanking, hitting, or beating children does more harm than good, parents are still doing it. If you’ve been hit or have done it or are still doing it, this article should serve you well. What happens when a child gets hit? They go into “shock”. It’s as if they can’t believe their parent, the person that stands between them and their survival is no longer on their side. I believe this is one of the most traumatic things you can do to a child right before rape, which is the ultimate evil… I’ll


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Misunderstanding Children

There’s nothing that upsets me more than adults misunderstanding children, then go on to make them wrong for it. Often I meet parents that are so frustrated with their 3, 4, or five-year-old. “This child is so demanding! Give me this, give me that now! etc.” “Little brats!” If these parents (and teachers) would just take a breath, zoom out and look at what’s really going on, it would serve them well. How did a child get its diaper changed? Get food? Crying, whining, and being demanding right? Perfectly normal until we help them transition into using more effective strategies


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Taking The High Road

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When parents start to take the high road in life, there may be some opposition. Maybe even from the people, you care about deeply. This is natural and there may be a feeling in the gut that says “retreat!”. If you made a commitment to taking the high road in your parenting, it not only serves you, it serves everyone around you and the greater good. There must not be any long term retreating in order to get the benefits that will emerge from your commitment. So how do you deal with the opposition? My suggestion is to first understand


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Are You Shoulding On Your Child?

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If you are shoulding on your child, this may be the reason why there is so much resistance in the relationship. If you ever find yourself stuck in a “Should” mode, you are doing what I call “shoulding”. You should do this! You should do that! You should, should, should, should. How’s that feel to read? Feels like being judged and shamed, I’m sure. That’s how our children feel when we should on them. When we should on our children, the underlining message is, you are not enough. When humans are made to not feel enough, they resist and develop


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